“Fighting for identity is something that is very much in my life”

Maha Shivaratri

Last Friday was Maha Shivaratri. Every month there is one day dedicated to worshipping Lord Shiva (“pradosh”) but “Maha Shivaratri” is the yearly, ritual worship in a prescribed manner of one of the three major ‘personalised’ forms of the ultimate reality or Brahman that Hindus worship.

We are all projected out of Brahman (making us and the rest of the universe part of God) – and we call that aspect “Lord Brahma”; we are all sustained by and within Brahman and we call this power “Lord Vishnu” and finally after billions of years we all return into Brahman as we call this attribute “Lord Shiva”. We are not ‘destroyed’ as some assert, but subsist in Brahman in ‘prayala’ until the next round of ‘projection’. We do not ever die – but are children of ‘immortal bliss’.

Hindus offer special prayers to Lord Shiva on Shivaratri. In Sanskrit, ‘ratri’ means night and thus, Shivaratri literally means ‘The Night of Shiva’. There are several traditions associated with the night: Lord Shiva performed the Tandava Nritya (the dance of dissolution); he appeared as the Lingam; or he married Mother Parvati. Maha Shivaratri is observed for one night, but the preparations begin the preceding day.

The day before Shivaratri, the house would have been given a thorough cleaning- both inside and out. Hindus literally leave no stone unturned when sprucing up for Shivaratri (and other festivals) because symbolically God is welcomed into our house. Who would want God to enter a grubby house?

Traditionally, this sacred festival is observed by offering Abhishek or Dhar. This is the several types of liquid offerings that we make to the Shiva Lingam (literally the “sign” of Shiva as the formless Brahman) – milk, honey, ghee, dahee (yogurt), Ganga jal, coconut water, and cane juice. Each of these offerings has a symbolic significance, but overall they represent a ‘cooling of the linga’ the desire of our souls to merge with God. So, in observance of Maha Shivaratri, we offer prayers and Abhishek to Lord Shiva.

Friday, thousands would have gone to the Cove and John Ashram, go to their local Mandir or stay home to offer their Dhar and prayers at their Shivala in their yard. My Mom is a Shiva bhakta (worshipper) and Shivaratri is always a big occasion in our home.

A growing number of Hindus make time for Mandir even though they mightn’t always be regular attendees on Thursday night, or Sunday morning. So many Hindus coming together and praying together, putting aside whatever personal differences they might have, to worship the same deities. They also do not eat meat during the Shivaratri period. Some Hindus, like my Mom, even completely give up “salt” food completely, eating only fruits.

The whole point of Mandirs is for everyone, the entire Hindu community, to get involved: everyone has a part to play. Everyone can sing along God’s praises with the bhajans, everyone prays together with the mantras.

It helps Hindus to solidify their identities as Hindus. It helps us to feel that sense of pride and to share that feeling with fellow Hindus.

So I hope all Hindus proudly celebrated Shivaratri on Friday, whether they observed the festival at home or at Mandir.