The tragic case of Zaila Sugrim’s murder at the hands of her ex-husband, Ryan Sugrim, is a sobering reminder of the devastating consequences of domestic violence. The recent sentencing of Sugrim to 24 years in prison brings a measure of justice, but it does not erase the pain and loss suffered by Zaila’s family. More importantly, it underscores the urgent need for collective action to prevent such tragedies in the future.
Education Minister Priya Manickchand, who was Zaila’s Attorney when she first escaped her abusive marriage, has made an impassioned appeal to women in abusive relationships and to families who may be enabling domestic violence. Her message is clear: silence and inaction can lead to irreparable loss. Domestic violence is not just a private matter – it is a societal crisis that demands immediate intervention.
Zaila Sugrim’s story is, heartbreakingly, not unique. Women across Guyana and the world continue to suffer at the hands of their abusers, often feeling trapped by fear, economic dependency, and psychological manipulation. Many victims believe that their abusers will change, that promises of reform will hold true. But as Manickchand so poignantly pointed out, abuse is a deep-seated issue that requires professional intervention. Without meaningful change, the cycle of violence continues, often escalating to lethal consequences.
The harrowing details of Zaila’s final moments highlight the calculated brutality that domestic violence can escalate into. After enduring years of abuse, she sought safety and legal protection. Yet, a simple act of visiting her children turned fatal. Her story serves as a chilling warning to all women who believe they can manage an abusive partner or safely return to a violent environment. The unfortunate truth is that domestic violence often ends in death.
Manickchand’s plea to families is especially significant. Too often, domestic violence is ignored or excused, with family members turning a blind eye or downplaying the severity of the abuse. Some parents, siblings, and friends may hope that the situation will resolve itself or that the abuser will reform on his own. But history and experience show otherwise.
Her stark warning is one that all families should heed: by failing to intervene, they risk not only the life of the victim, but also the future of the abuser. A man who is allowed to continue his violent ways unchallenged may one day find himself in prison for decades, just like Ryan Sugrim. Families must recognise their responsibility in stopping domestic violence, not just for the victim’s sake, but also to prevent the irreversible consequences for the perpetrator.
Domestic violence is not a private matter; it is a national crisis that requires a coordinated response. Government agencies, social services, law enforcement, and the judicial system all play crucial roles in ensuring that victims receive protection and that perpetrators are held accountable. But legal and institutional responses alone are not enough. Societal attitudes must shift.
Too often, victims are blamed or pressured to stay in abusive relationships for the sake of their children or financial security. Cultural norms that tolerate or excuse abuse must be dismantled. Communities must actively support survivors, providing safe spaces, counselling, and economic opportunities to help them rebuild their lives. Public awareness campaigns must reinforce the message that domestic violence is unacceptable and that no one – regardless of their status, gender, or background, is above the law.
Manickchand’s words also serve as a direct appeal to women who are currently in abusive relationships. The belief that an abuser will change without professional intervention is a dangerous illusion. Women must prioritise their own safety and take decisive action to leave and stay away from violent partners. Seeking legal protection, finding shelter, and building support networks are essential steps towards securing a future free from abuse.
It is a painful truth that leaving an abusive relationship is not always easy. The emotional and psychological grip of an abuser can be as powerful as physical violence. But the risks of staying – injury, trauma, or even death – are far greater. Women must recognise their worth, their right to safety, and their right to live without fear.
Domestic violence is a scourge that thrives in silence and secrecy. It is time to break that silence.
